Slut Shaming

Hello class. For today’s lesson, we’ll be talking about people who are obsessed w/judgment of others, slut shaming in particular, and how you may as well wear a sign on your forehead that reads “I’m insecure” if you do so http://tcat.tc/2iaRM5g 
Since that particular article is about men who slut shame
 …for women who slut shame other women = internalized misogyny (also a form of generalized insecurity)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-bejeezus-out-me/201406/whats-really-behind-slut-shaming 
If you constantly judge/gossip about others but DON’T specifically “slut shame” it’s no different. The thought pattern is one of desire to overcompensate in lieu of self worth, to mask ones own weakness. This stems from the same psychological root(s). This behavior is known as moral superiority and/or superiority complex 
“superiority complex rises from…repressed feelings of inferiority and lack of self-esteem”https://psychologenie.com/the-concept-of-superiority-complex-in-psychology
Once you become self aware, and truly honest with yourself, you CAN tackle your insecurity & curb the compulsion to judge others:http://thepositivitysolution.com/judging-others
But it is so much more than that. Many people believe that judging others is something you either do or don’t do in general; however, that is not the case. Sometimes individuals are generally open minded but particularly judgemental in specific situations, or in regard to particular individuals . 
When we respect ourselves, we’re more free and able to respect others: their personal limits, boundaries, etc.https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-respect-other-peoples-boundaries/
Maybe your judgments don’t manifest in the ways aforementioned? Have you ever written a script in your head of what you think someone else’s response to you should be? Have you ever felt upset (disappointed, frustrated, resentful, etc) because you asked someone to do something for/with you and they declined? Have you ever attempted to alter your perception, to include the possibility that it has nothing to do with them, and it’s actually about the fact that you’re not secure enough to accept an answer that you didn’t want to hear?? “Expectations are premeditated resentments.” J.A.Johnson-PhD 
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cui-bono/201802/the-psychology-expectations%3Famp
Whether it’s conscious or not, when you do not respect others decisions of what to do with their own time/energy/feelings/bodies, when you treat them differently because you feel “upset” they didn’t do as YOU would have liked/imagined, it is an attempt to manipulate them to your whims in response to perceived rejection. This is unhealthy and self defeating behavior. 
How to gracefully deal with rejection:https://www.google.com/amp/s/lifehacker.com/how-to-gracefully-deal-with-rejection-1818702428/amp
 It is so much easier said than done, to triumph  over ones defensiveness & insecurities; we all have them, and we all need to constantly take self inventory to keep them (and our response to them) in check. It’s not an easy task, but  it is worth it tenfold, and will ultimately make you a much better person.  We all deserve happiness & inner peace.